How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You in 7 Steps (stanleycyang.com)
https://stanleycyang.com/how-to-forgive-someone

How to Forgive Someone that Deeply Hurt You - TheHopeLine
https://www.thehopeline.com/how-to-forgive/

10 Easy Ways to Forget Someone Who Hurt You Deeply - easyWays
https://www.easyways.net/10-easy-ways-forget-someone-hurt-deeply/

How to Forgive Yourself: 9 Tips For Self Forgiveness - Choosing Therapy
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-forgive-yourself/

How to Forgive Yourself (and Actually Mean It) | SELF
https://www.self.com/story/how-to-forgive-yourself

QUESTIONS

I’ve been dating my boyfriend (28m) for just under 8 months. He works in a small industry and makes ~60k a year. Which of course is a impressive salary and a massive achievement in his field, and I’m genuinely proud of what he has done. He is from a small town with small town values. Everything was going great, until recently. We have a lot in common and get along really well. Money has never been a issue until now, and I’ve always insisted on paying for dates 50/50. Yesterday he said that he was uncomfortable with how much more money I made then he did. He said I should slow down my career so I could be at home more often, and to let him be the “man of the house”. I was honestly speechless and have been staying at my sisters ever since. At this point I’m strongly considering leaving. I’ve been though similar situations with exs. any ideas on how to get this to stop happening?

My (20f) bf(23m) and I have been together for 3.5 years he Butt dialled me last night while talking to his friends about other girls bodies and he than made a comment if this girl shows up tonight he’s fuck her. He doesn’t know he called me what do I do?

I’m happily married and I feel like my husband is one of the only people on the planet who gets me and loves me for who I am. The rest of my relationships….I just feel unlikable. Like there is something I put out into the world that I’m unaware of that causes people to want to avoid me. I’ve never really had the proverbial “BFF” whose family is like mine and vice versa. I’m always a fringe friend. Work is the same way - I see cliques of coworkers and feel like I’m excluded, talked down to, and treated as if I don’t belong. After 35 years it is wearing on me greatly. I’m lonely. I have incredible social anxiety now. I prefer spending time by myself which of course doesn’t help anything. I literally don’t know what I do that is off-putting to others. I think I’m friendly albeit quiet. I try to let people know I care. I try to help if I see a coworker struggling. I smile at people when I see them and say hello. Maybe I’m unknowingly abrasive? I don’t know.

My significant others 14 year old son is borderline autistic. His son lives with his mom, and the mom doesn't care for the child at all. He has no sense of personal hygiene, or care for anything other than video games and hanging out with his friends. My question is, how do we get his personal hygiene on an acceptable level?

I’m basically a single mom to two boys. A 13m and a 4m. But this mainly has to do with oldest. He lurks around when I’m on the phone and if there is ANY mention to money, he is wanting to know what it is about, how much, when I’m going to buy such thing even if I’m just talking and have no intentions of buying anything. Granted we struggle. I mean who is not nowadays. But he is always telling me when I get some money I should upgrade this I should do this, why ain’t I doing this. How do I get this kid out my wallet?

I have a 14-year old daughter. She has absolutely zero interest in doing anything. If I let her, she would sit and watch tv for 18 hours straight. Today I had a long day at work and she sat in front of the tv from 8 in the morning until almost midnight. I’ve tried to encourage her to take walks with me, garden with me, draw or read outside, and she complains the entire time and just HATES it. Do I keep trying or let her be?

I had sex for the first time last night and it felt like I was getting raped. It was 100% consensual and I was in control most of the time. But I still felt sad after and it felt wrong. I don't even feel very attracted or connected to the person right now. I almost don't feel like I'm living real life. Is this normal for first time? Should I stay positive and try again?

This is really silly, but I’m too embarrassed to ask any of my friends. Why does my boyfriend keep asking me for nude pictures? i thought we had a great sex life.

Am I wrong for choosing my boyfriend over my toxic family?
https://www.usatoday.com/story/life/health-wellness/2022/07/05/toxic-family-manipulative-mother-advice/7775267001/

5 Therapy Tips for People Who Are Uncomfortable With the Idea of Talking to a Stranger
https://themighty.com/2017/08/how-to-talk-to-therapist-complete-stranger-anxiety/

What don't they tell you about married life?
https://qr.ae/pv4Xx1
https://www.quora.com/What-dont-they-tell-you-about-married-life

When Your Internal Monologue Hates You
https://themighty.com/2016/08/anxiety-when-your-brain-hates-you

Started a new job. It was an agency who found the job and said it would be perfect for me. It’s 3 grades below my previous job and already bored after the first day because it’s not challenging enough. Is it too early to leave for another job?

I am new to my company but I still don’t really feel like I fit in and it’s hard to feel apart of the team
I’m much much younger than everyone, only 21 and the rest are all in their late 30s and 40s. I’m not an extrovert so it’s really unnatural for me to just walk up to strangers in the wider team and I haven’t had anyone try to talk to me or get to know me. This is also my first job since I just graduated. My team only work in the office 2 days a week and the rest is from home. So how am I expected to develop any relationship with people?

I am looking for ways to deal with the frustration I often feel from my co-workers being lazy. I have been at my new job for a year now. Most of my co-workers (there's just a few of us) have been there for several years. I find that I am getting stuck doing the majority of the work each day. Often times I will look around and be the only one in the area working while the others have just disappeared or are off having chit chat conversations for hours at a time. I have tried to scale back the amount of work that I do, but that just goes against everything in my personality and I end up doing it anyway. I would appreciate any advice.

How do I tell if I’m in a stressful work position or if I just can’t handle stress / responsibilities well? Feeling overwhelmed and overloaded in a position which theoretically should be fairly fun.

I was asked to join a call today by my Boss & the ceo of the company I work for. They said wanted to discuss my performance. When I joined the call they immediately said this was just an explanation of their concerns & what areas I was lacking but “no rebuttal was allowed/intended”. They proceeded to go through my discrepancies w/ out allowing to defend myself and just kept repeating that no rebuttal was allowed. They ended the “discussion” by telling me that I would receive a detailed email which I could reply back to. I’ve never experienced this kind of disrespect at a job. I felt like a child being told not to speak in class. How would you have handled the situation?

PARENTING

I'm a single dad and my 13 year old daughter wants to start wearing bikini swimwear. Is she too young for that?

I have 2 boys 9 and 13. The 9 year old is curious, thoughtful, creative, makes bucket lists has passion and interests. My 13 year year old is sweet and kind, gets straight A’s. But he has no interests or passions. He is not a thinker if that makes sense. No real sense of curiosity. How do I help him?

I'm a single dad and My 13 year old daughter wants to take belly dance classes because of Singer Shakira. is she too young for that kind of activity?

My daughter, 18, floats between my house and her other parent a few blocks away, but spends most of her time with her boyfriend of 6 months. Last night for the third time since she's been seeing him, I needed to get in touch with her about something time-sensitive and important. She was unreachable. So when she got home I explained that I needed her bf's #. She's refusing.

My 16 year old recently earned access to social media knowing we monitor it and have full access to his account. He met a girl on Instagram about 8 hours ago. Since they started talking they progressed to boyfriend girlfriend, full on I Love YoUs, but seemingly first the kid sent my son not only NUDES but graphic videos of her …pleasuring herself. I know this because when I did a phone check this evening he had deleted the chat, told her they couldn’t send nudes because he didn’t want to get in trouble, then went on to compliment her in EXTREME detail on every bit of the videos and pics she’d sent. Now what do I do??

RELATIONSHIPS

21F) I asked me boyfriend (28M) why he never reciprocates head and how important foreplay is for me and he said “Unfortunately that just isn’t really my thing and never has been and I don’t think it ever will be I’m sorry” I told him that I completely respect his decision but I will no longer be giving him any because I don’t think it’s fair for head to not be reciprocated. (I'm always 100% shaved and clean btw) Now he’s calling me selfish and a manipulator because i'm “forcing” him to do something he isn’t comfortable with. I never once forced him. All I said was if you don’t want to reciprocate then I won’t be doing it at all anymore. Am I in the right or is he?

I (26F) used to make a big deal of my husband's (28M) birthday. He never gave much feedback or seemed to care so I didn't make a card and worked on his birthday this year. Now he's upset. He didn't care when i did make a fuss. I very confused.

My (34F) ex cheated on me(29m) last month. She had lost the ability to walk in which i stayed by her side the entire process through her spinal surgery, and now says she wishes I was never there, and saying how i was selfish, and used the opportunity to look like a better person. Why are people like this?

We have been dating for 6 months now. Last night, she sat me down and told me that she wants to tell me something that she is ashamed about, apparently it has been bothering her for quite some time and she just wants to get it off her chest. She told me she has these weird fantasies that she would never actually act on in real life, she just enjoys writing about them online (sometimes on reddit). She writes them as if she actually did it even though she hasn't (she says she hasn't, and I believe that). The issue is that almost all of these fantasies involve her cheating on me in some form, or threesomes etc. Like the generic "went to a bar, hooked up with a guy, bf doesn't know" type of thing. I told her I appreciate her being honest with me, and she started crying, telling me she doesn't want to lose me over this. But it has been bothering me and now I actually want to break up because I can't get over how she fantasies about cheating. I need help either getting over it or figuring out how to end the relationship on a good note.

How does one overcome infidelity? It’s been a little over a year since my husband cheated. I’ve been trying to heal and forgive, but I just can’t “get over it.” I asked him to go to therapy, put more effort into the marriage (his priority is work), etc. Any time it comes up, he is defensive and upset. He hasn’t really created a space for me to heal which I feel has disrupted the rebuilding process. It seems like he doesn’t think what he did was that bad and just wants to move forward. I hate that it’s all on me to get over it. Any advice?

SEX

My wife just turned me down and said “we had sex yesterday, I don’t want you to get greedy”. We’ve been married for 12 years and happily I might add! WTH?

my bf has e-sex with random people on online games and i just found out. what do i do?? is this cheating or am i over reacting?

BDSM partner with a vanilla partner - help?

Gf and I are both of each other’s first times, and we only recently started having sex so we’re new at it, but i digress. She says every time we have sex she gets the feeling that she really needs to pee, what is that?

Do guys not like making out if it doesn’t lead to sex?

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