List of Effective Parenting Tips and Skills for Toddlers (firstcry.com)

50+ Super Fun Things to do with Toddlers (Easy & Fun Activities) (rookiemoms.com)

5 Tips for Handling Tantrums - Free Spirit Freelance

11 tips for having a great first day of school - Care.com Resources

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I’m financially stuck living at home for another year or so until I pay off my debt. Is there any way to get my mom to stop opening my mail and packages?

25F My boyfriend 25M told me he is jealous of my job and how I spend my money. Can this be worked through?

Hi, i would like your advice/opinion, please don’t hold back. I’m a 22yo girl, i haven’t a boyfriend and i haven’t had one for YEARS, so i’m really late for all the sexual stuff compared to all my friends. The thing is that i don’t really like the idea of losing my virginity to someone i don’t love just to do so (i don’t want to wait until marriage, i just think being the first time i would like to wait for a guy that i really like), but i’m 22 and most of my friends are “pushing” me to just do it because at my age i should have some experience. They say that it’s just sex and i should’t wait. I don’t like the idea, i don’t think i could be able to do it with someone i don’t have an emotional connection with. This is causing me a lot of insecurities. What do you think i should listen to my friend just so when i met the right guy i will have experience?

I'm the mother of a 14-year-old who just started high school. We went on a trip to the lake over the weekend (my son, a few friends, and a few of the moms) and I was the only mom there who was wearing a bikini. Is this embarassing for a teenage boy? Do boys even care?

PARENTING

My lovely lovely son is 4, and we’ve been potty training for 18 months. I’ve tried to keep it low pressure, but now I second guess everything I ever did. I am so so tired of poop pants. I’m at the point where I’m throwing underwear away because I just can’t do it anymore! Poop is now a trigger for me. I get so scared there’s poop just everywhere in the house. I stepped on a real live human turd the other day and honestly I have no idea if it was from him or my 2 year old. Does this ever end??

We have a four and two year old. Often, when we are out of the room, some type of conflict will arise between the two of them and one of them will start crying (generally, the two year old). We’ll come in and try to figure out what happened and they’ll both blame one another and say it was the other person’s fault, yada yada. We always struggle with how to handle these situations because a) we didn’t actually see what happened and b) they’re so young that I’m often not sure how reliable the information they’re providing is. How do you tell who is telling the truth?

So I am at a complete loss with our oldest son. He is 11 years old and for a little back ground we just moved from the city to a rural area so he is attending a new smaller school this year. He's done pretty good so far. We bought a lot of acreage so it's new and exciting and we've had a lot of fun adventures so far. He is keeping good grades and making some friends but something that has come up is his behavior at school.
I have been getting calls from the school for his behavior. It's typical things like, not listening to the teachers. For example one incident he had a stuffed banana he was throwing around in the classroom and even when the teacher repeatedly asked him not to, he kept doing it so she confiscated it. The problem is that he sees himself as the victim when that happens. It's like he is not connecting that his consequences have actions. He also got written up on the bus for repeatedly standing up during driving even after being warned over multiple days. Today I get a call that he stuck a wad of paper in the tail pipe of someone's truck in the parking lot during recess and they truck turned out to be the principals!! Who was not happy at all about it. We have been trying to talk with him and ask him why he is doing this? He said that basically he is trying to get the other kids to laugh. So basically like a class clown thing. My question is how do we deal with this effectively?

SEX

So I (F18) have been talking to this guy (M18) for a while now. We’ve been out together 3 times. On our 2nd hang out, he tried to pursue sex with me and I told him I was a virgin and wasn’t ready yet which he completely understood. Instead we just did “hand stuff” (if you know what I mean). On our latest hang out (3rd one), he said he wanted to get to know me better. So we spent most of the time talking. At some point we started intensely making out. When I asked if could go to the back seat to take things further, he said that we should wait and that he wanted to get his std test results back. And that we could do it when “the time is right”. After that conversation he immediately decided to take me home. So I’m wondering is he disgusted by my virginity? Does he not want to be with me? Or am I overthinking it?

i like being dominated and degraded a lot. i like to be consensually hurt and fucked how ever he pleases it really turns me on to know he will do whatever he wants to me. is it strange i like to be so degraded?

WORK

I gave my notice period a week ago and since then a boss of mine totaly ignores my calls and immediately call a coworker who sits next to me whenever im trying to reach him. I'm trying my best to stay professional and productive to my last day but this irresponsible behaviour is so annoying. How do I get him to return my calls?

I used to work my butt off and would do it with a smile. I know I can be good at my job, but I just 1. Don’t care anymore 2. People still think I’m good at my job (so maybe I am, but I know I’m not giving 💯) so I actually don’t try because I get by with what’s perceived. Far enough in my career that I won’t change. I don’t know what else I’d do anyway. And a lot of people would kill for my job. I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, it’s just really hard to give AF. I feel like an imposter. How do change this?

My company has hired 4 department leaders (myself included) in the last year or so. During that time, two have quit, and the most recent hire HATES coming into work every day. I completely understand where my coworkers are coming from. Our boss can be controlling and stubborn at times, and the work culture is kind of toxic. How do I help?

The Effects of Anger - How it Impacts You, Even If You Think it Doesn't (thedailypositive.com)

How to Control Anger: 25 Tips to Manage Your Anger and Feel Calmer (healthline.com)

How to help kids with anger: 7 key tips for helping them manage this feeling - Care.com Resources

9 Anger Management Tips for Teens - HealthProAdvice

Plus Lubby's dive into Reddit!!

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I (33F) have been married for the last 3 years to my husband(32M) I'm going to call him Zach but together for 10.. My daughter (13f) I'll call her Brooke.. A few days ago Brooke came in from school as normal, everyone is talking about their day and so on.. Brooke is very random, I believe she just says whatever comes to her head at the moment, she definitely gets it from me. But on this day she was asking about crushes, first boy/girlfriend. Zach was completely against the conversation to begin with. He's the no boyfriend until you are 30 type of guy. I on the other hand allow my kids to be open about anything rather good or bad, I rather them come to me than some silly person who would lead them wrong. Brooke is in the 8th grade so it's natural these feelings for boys or girls are going to come. Brooke mentioned she may possibly like a girl in her class, which doesn't surprise me, my daughter is a butterfly child, gets along with everyone, very sweet and smart, she all around has an awesome personality.. But Zach completely blew up yelling and screaming she's too young, calling us all types of names.. I ended up leaving I'm crying, my daughter is crying apologizing when she has NOTHING TO BE SORRY FOR!! ,I couldn't afford a room so we slept in the car and have been in the car since, he won't allow me to get my boys so it's just been me and Brooke. How do I fix this?

So my bf and I have been dating for 6 months and just moved into a new apartment together. But at the beginning of our relationship before we ever did something sexual we talked about condoms of course and he mentioned the ones that he had which expired in 2020 cuz he was using them with his ex like in 2018 ig the time they broke up. It has bothered me cuz if he can buy new condoms why can’t he throw those away and either way they are expired. So I told him but he still kept them cuz yesterday I saw them in a box and today I found them in a drawer with new boxes. But I just don’t get it. I made it obvious many times I don’t want him to even think about using those on me and to get rid of them. But when I questioned him about why would he bring them here and why does he still have them he said he didn’t see it as a big deal but it just makes me feel like he has some type of attachment to the fact that he never finished using them with her. Help me to understand this please.

I'm a 24 year old male and I don't know what is wrong with me. Sex is literally broken for me and I have no idea how to fix it. I lost my virginity when I was 19 and I felt NOTHING. I don't mean I was only a little turned on or something, I mean I felt absolutely 0% sexual arousal. I was in a relationship with that girl for 4 years and never once felt turned on or enjoyed sex. I only really did it because she wanted me to and I usually didn't feel like it because it felt like a chore. I'm now with a second gf. I don't want to seem rude or anything, but she is (at least for me) a lot better looking than my ex so I thought I might feel something this time. But nope, I felt nothing again. She's also tried multiple things with me like anal, BDSM etc and I enjoyed none of it. 0% excited or turned on for anything. And I can tell that she's actually really good at sex too. Whats wrong with me?

I 28M have been dating my girlfriend (29F) for about 2 years. Our leases both end in a few months and for a while we've been in agreement we'd move in together after that. For most of our relationship we made around the same amount of money so we always split things and money was never an issue. Well last month I got a job that I wasn't really expecting to get, I thought I wasnt qualified but they loved me in the interview process and gave me an offer. This basically doubled my salary. While this was exciting for me, she seems to be even more excited about it to the point that it actually feels disrespectful. Our agreed budget on what we'd spend on an apartment is now all of a sudden not enough for her. She wants to live in a much nicer place and for me to pay the majority of it. She also keeps suggesting we go to fancy restaurants with the expectation I pay. I was happy to treat her for a nice celebratory dinner when I got the job but she keeps trying to set up more and more reservations. It makes me feel like she's treating me like a sugar daddy as much as I feel gross typing that. I told her I want to stick to our original rent budget and go with the same split we had already agreed to and that I dont plan on changing our lifestyle much and she said Im being greedy. How do I handle this?

PARENTING

I’m a divorced mom of 2 girls. Their dad is not super involved but they do see him several times a month. The oldest is 21 and out on her own. The youngest is 14 and lives with me. I have an excellent relationship with my girls. They are my biggest fans and I’m really proud of them. The 3 of us have always been close. But now that it’s my youngest and I her clinging to me constantly is driving me insane. My oldest was similar. But this time around it’s giving me anxiety. Some examples: when we go anywhere 14yo wants to hold my hand, hold my arm. I’m talking walking through parking lots and in stores. When we sit on the couch together she wants to hold my hand or sit right next to me. In the morning and evening she wants to crawl in bed with me. Constantly hugging me. The worst thing about it is she would never stop or get up unless I tell her to stop. She would literally stand and hug me for an hour if I let her. I’ll be doing something as mundane as taking off finger nail polish and she’ll come over and hug me. And not let go. And then I have to say “ok sweetie. Let me get back to this”. I feel constantly guilty for stopping her. But I’m starting to resent not being able to just sit and watch a show with her unless she is wrapped around me. Believe me. I know that as far as parenting issues go I’m lucky. But it’s still something that I think needs to be addressed. How do I help her feel more confident?

Hi, I have a 3 year old son with my ex, I have been trying to separate from him for a little over a month now. Relationship has always been rocky- not terrible (no abuse etc) but just up and down. He’s now holding on for dear life, and it’s making me more certain I am not happy to stay and “work” on it. His biggest argument is I’m breaking up our family, making everything so much harder for our son, that I am going to change him (our son) so much and his childhood will now be ruined. I’m being told daily that I’m making decisions that affect our son on such a drastic level and I’m so selfish for not considering him and his life and chance to grow up in a “real” family. Would I ruin my son's life if we were to separate?

My daughter is 6.5 she is in 1st grade. She hated kindergarten and she hates 1st grade as well. She is a shy kid so I’m sure the school environment can be intimidating for her but she does have friends and she loves her teacher. She had a fever yesterday and so she got to stay home and she laid around all day and wasn’t hungry so didn’t eat. When she got up this morning her fever was gone and stated she was hungry and she ate breakfast just fine. When I told her she had to go to school today she then claimed her stomach hurt. I considered letting her stay home but she just missed 3 days of school 3 weeks ago for a fever and fatigue. I made her go to school today and told her if she doesn’t feel well at school to tell her teacher and I will come get her. How do you judge when to let your child stay home from school?

My wife (34) and I (35) a 4.5 year old daughter that is very difficult to wake up in the morning. 4/5 days I have literally pick her up out of her bed and carry her to a chair in the kitchen after 30 minutes of gentle warnings, and sometimes she'll run back to her bed, and I have to do it again. I hate doing this as it always leads to tears and I feel this is straining my relationship with her. My wife works 12hr shifts 3/7 days a week, and when she's working I have to wake my daughter up before I go to work, hence why I have to pick her up out of bed. She has no firm bedtime. Do you think this would help?

WORK
very tired and brain fog during work - but get's slowly better at home, does this mean i don't like my job anymore? As far as i know i still enjoy my job even if it means sitting behind a desk for most part of the day, but i always feel so damn sleepy and suffer massive brain fog which get's a tiny bit better once i get home (it remains the same during the weekend, but less). I walk about 10km every day but don't run or do any muscle training, i really wanna go out and do stuff but i just am to damn tired.

My boss recently gave me an award for my performance and mentioned enrolling me in advanced courses to move up in the company. I want to apply for another position in a different part of the company but I’m not sure how to go about it. Should I inform my boss of my plans?

I received a message from 2 of my managers saying they really need me to come in today at 4PM, which I CAN but I seriously don’t want to. It's my day off. I’m 18, and I do go to college as well, but granted I work part-time at the place. I received the message whilst I was doing my school work and it irked me because today I was going to use to get all my crap done before going to work the next day but I can’t. Am I being a lazy pos? or do I have the right to say no?

I’m an assistant teacher and I am pretty good at my job. I have an easy temperament working with children with disabilities. Assistant teachers get treated below regular teachers for some reason. Some regular teachers have a habit of intensively micro managing people of color even if they do have something to offer the kids in the classroom. Is this racism?

SEX

So my boyfriend always moans “you’re going to have my baby” during sex. And I DO NOT want to have his child. I’m on birth control and so I’m not worried about getting pregnant. However, I can’t help but look awkward when he says that because I don’t want to lie to him. I usually just get silent when he asks. He asked me today if I enjoy sex with him and I do, I just don’t have the heart to tell him I’m not into him saying that during sex. Anyway, what should I do?

Yes or no to wake up sex? Is this a real thing? Do we like our partner touching and stimulating us sexually / sensually to wake us up ?

I had a great first date with a guy from tinder. We went on another date yesterday, it was great. I went back to his place and we had oral sex. I didn't climax, but was getting tired so told him "okay that's enough"; still it felt really good. This morning we cuddled, fore-played and I gave him a bj (my first one). He told me he was cumming in like under a minute of me doing it, and I was like oh wow that's quick. I asked if he wanted me to swallow and he said yes. I kissed him after, it was awkward. The rest of the morning/afternoon he was ice cold towards me. I asked if I did anything wrong and he said he was just tired. Maybe I overstayed my welcome? I don't know what happened.

My boy friend and I, both 18, have started experimenting with raw sex. And while I am on birth control I still feel worried about an unwanted pregnancy. He so far has been pulling but I would like for him to not have to. I was looking in to using spermicide but I couldn't find any good reviews of it. Do I have any reason to be worried?

Empty Nest Syndrome: Signs, Symptoms, & How to Cope (choosingtherapy.com)
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/empty-nest-syndrome/

How to Thrive with an Empty Nest: 33 Things to do After the Kids Leave Home (jane-athome.com)
https://jane-athome.com/empty-nest-what-to-do/

5 Tips for Dealing with an Adult Child Moving Home | HowStuffWorks
https://lifestyle.howstuffworks.com/family/parenting/parenting-tips/5-tips-for-dealing-with-adult-child-moving-home.htm

Plus this weeks dive into reddit

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After 2 years of dating and living together I am starting to hate him? Is that even possible? He has no job and definitely is not struggling to get one as he can easily be hired anywhere due to having job experiences. He refuses to, waits on government benefits and gambles it in a day or two. Frankly, I’m so sick of this repetitive cycle and we were supposed to go to this day festival market together and he supposedly gambled away everything and now he’s just sighing and whinging about having no money. Gets angry when I refuse to loan him money because I said he would definitely lose and he says I’m belittling him. I am at my wits ends and I am starting to resent him. I even told him today to go back to his mother’s house and he said “oh you really want me to go?” Literally sitting around all day as a 23 year old man and waiting for your girlfriend or government benefits is not the way to live life…I have had enough. I feel so suffocated. I used to find him so attractive now he just looks like a bum ass loser to me. How do I change him?

The past two weeks have been hell for me. We’re married since 9 years and have two beautiful kids. I caught my wife last week chatting with someone and when I confronted her she said it was just a casual talk with friend for stress relief and that it started a few months ago. As I dug up more evidence she has gradually admitted that the affair started four years ago and now has finally admitted that he was her ex lover in college. She has apologized and said that she will end for good and that she is ashamed of having continued it for so long. But I find myself obsessively rewinding all the things I did over the last four years. She had the affair through almost half of our married life, through the birth of our second child and even when I was hospitalized. How do I move past this?

I am a 54 year old man in a relationship with a 48 year old woman for about 18 months. We are both single parents, I have a 21 yr old daughter and she has a 25 year old daughter. Both daughters stay at home. We both own smallish houses ideally suited for 2 people, though hers is bigger (and of higher value) than mine. My girlfriend would like to quickly progress the relationship to marriage by:
a) moving in with me and my daughter or;
b) me selling my house to buy a bigger place and she would chip in with 20% of the price, but wants 50-50 ownership
in both cases she would be handing over her existing house to her daughter
While I’m ok with the idea of marriage, but I feel we should:
a) wait till either of the daughters have moved out or;
b) both contribute 50-50 to buy a bigger place; or
c) wait till I can buy a bigger place on my own
Please let me know if I am being unreasonable or if her suggestions are fair?

My partner (35m) over the course of our relationship has tried to put up cameras in the house on a few different occasions. Personally, I don't really like them. I (33f) work from home and don't want to be watched, which he will sometimes do. I know this because there's a talking option and sometimes he will say something to me, through the camera, randomly throughout the day. I don't like that. The camera set up in our living room started when we went out of town over the weekend. My dad was over for a day to bring our baby to daycare and watch over our older boys before they left for the day/evening. He was obsessed, watching the camera so much. Literally just watching my dad and the kids walk around hanging out. It was really weird. I didn't like that and I thought it was invading my dads privacy who was doing something nice for us (we wouldn't have been able to go away otherwiise) Now that we are back, the camera is still up. I unplugged it this morning and went back to the kitchen to see it plugged in again. He knows I don't like it. He had one in our room a few months ago and I told him to stop trying to put them up. Of course, I have nothing to hide, I just don't like the idea. Also want to add that he won't let me have the app to the camera, he told me only one user is allowed which I think is BS. How do I deal with this invasion of privacy?

PARENTING

Yesterday I was sick with the flu - had a fever, felt like I was hit by a bus, barely able to move, couldn’t even pick up my infant. I have two kids a 2.5 yr old and an 8 month old and yesterday my husband watched them all day. I am breastfeeding still so aside from feeding the baby, I was basically in bed the whole time. He did not cook a single thing, he did not do a single chore, did not clean a single dish. We ordered food all day. Am I expecting too much?

Is there a way we can get my child (7) to not share all our business with my mom? Under the heading of “this wasn’t a problem that existed when I was a kid”, he is able to do video calls on his tablet with his grandparents and he likes to chatter away about whatever. Usually once we get the call connected he wanders around the house and my spouse and I go back to whatever adult task we were doing. For the most part this is fine, I’m glad he has a better relationship with his grandparents than I had with mine (which wasn’t bad, it was just absent due to distance and long distance phone calls were $$$ then). But my mom requires firm boundaries or else she starts to meddle. I typically keep her on an information diet. That doesn’t really work with my child not having any sort of filter. Help!

My son is a sophomore this year. I've honestly never had to deal with this issue before. I've always had great relationships with my kids' teachers but this one has responded rudely right off the bat. I asked if my son could come in for help and the teacher basically said that he should not have taken the class (it's an honors class) and that no teachers offer help outside of class. First, my son is in and has been in other honors classes and has never had an issue before. Second, most if not all of his other teachers offer specific days that they meet with students. Some offer help every day in fact. Her making that statement is just untrue. How do I get her to help my son?

"I feel so bad I want to hit somebody" My 5 year old daughter has taken to saying this when she feels mad. She has never hit me (or anyone) when she's said it. She even sometimes says, "I know I can't" or "I know that's wrong" or something of the sort. I think she's just expressing that she needs to release some anger. Normal? Usually she stomps 2 or 3 times, usually on the way to time out since that is what has prompted the angry response, then breathe deeply a bit and is done. How else can I help her? The phrase is troubling!

SEX
My favorite pornstar is literally in front of me right now--SHOULD I FUCKING SAY SOMETHING?
I'm freaking tf out right now. There's this one amateur porn star I watch all the time, he's literally my fucking go-to and I'm staring at him right now in the flesh. I'm in a bookstore and he's in an aisle by himself and undoubtedly it's him. I want to say something so bad but I don't know if it'll be weird or not??? I guess a girl going up to a guy is a little less weird but wtf am I going to say, "Omg I love your work"?

A couple I’m friends with asked me to partake in a threesome with them. This is the third couple that’s asked. I’m quite flattered by the question, what would make someone ask? I always thought I gave off a bit of a frigid vibe. One of them were acquaintances/friends of friends and the other two are friends of mine. I’m on the spectrum, am I missing signs and hints being dropped and responding in a way that implies I’m down, or do people just go around scouting out people to have threesomes with and ask flat out to save time?

I'm not really sure how to word this exactly but I'll try my best lol. I've asked a couple similar questions to this recently and some of the advice was very helpful.. I'm not in a relationship nor do I want to be in one currently but I could see this affecting things down the road when I will be potentially ready. I've somewhat recently discovered I'm bisexual and with that came a lot of exploring of kinks and fetishes that I didn't realize even existed let alone me being into them (I was raised very sheltered). With women I'm extremely sexual and let my kinks be pretty well known. I'm extremely experimental with them and crave crazy unadulterated sex. With men I don't want any of that. I'm happy to please a boyfriend and be dutiful but I wouldn't want anything past vanilla sex and even that is pushing the envelope. So eventually when I do get into a relationship with a man do I grin and bear it? Is it not fair that I'm hyper sexual with women but not him? Do I go along to get along even though my heart isn't in it?

My girlfriend grabs my dick all the time, even in puplic places. It's not like a one second touch, she grabs it very passionately. But sometimes, when I initiate sex after she touches me, she would turn me down, saying she's tired. Don't get me wrong, I'm not upset at all, I'm just confused. We still have sex quite regularly (2-3 times/week, except when she's on her period) so we're not in a dead bedroom relationship. But why does she act so sexually if she's not horny?

WORK

I work in an office and we are all remote except one day a week where we go in because we need to have someone covering the receptionist desk. I always struggle asking for days off coz I feel like im asking too much. Is this okay to ask for a day off for a family matter?

im a barber (19) and for months and months my boss and my coworker have pressured me to speak to customers. basically they always tell me to start convos with all customers while cutting their hair. but whenever my boss is gone i can speak all i want without being nervous cause usually i feel like he listens to the conversation. im sick to my stomach (nervous) for tomorrow… what should i do?

Hey! I work in a office environment where we sit together. I’m probably overthinking. There was a co worker who were saying that if there is alot on the customer service chat just let me know and I will hop on. And I was wondering where he was sitting and I put my head up just to have a look. That guy who were sitting just over the table from the other side decided to side eye me. He first looked away and then we both got eye contact. I felt it was personal. What does it mean when a co-worker side eyes you like that?

After realizing how precious time is, I realized that I barely have any free time in my day working full time and studying full time for $1K a month. Work is far and a big portion of my salary goes towards gas. I don’t need to work, but having a salary/allowance is nice. Should I quit?

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