The Effects of Anger - How it Impacts You, Even If You Think it Doesn't (thedailypositive.com)
How to Control Anger: 25 Tips to Manage Your Anger and Feel Calmer (healthline.com)
How to help kids with anger: 7 key tips for helping them manage this feeling - Care.com Resources
9 Anger Management Tips for Teens - HealthProAdvice
Plus Lubby's dive into Reddit!!
RELATIONSHIPS
I (33F) have been married for the last 3 years to my husband(32M) I'm going to call him Zach but together for 10.. My daughter (13f) I'll call her Brooke.. A few days ago Brooke came in from school as normal, everyone is talking about their day and so on.. Brooke is very random, I believe she just says whatever comes to her head at the moment, she definitely gets it from me. But on this day she was asking about crushes, first boy/girlfriend. Zach was completely against the conversation to begin with. He's the no boyfriend until you are 30 type of guy. I on the other hand allow my kids to be open about anything rather good or bad, I rather them come to me than some silly person who would lead them wrong. Brooke is in the 8th grade so it's natural these feelings for boys or girls are going to come. Brooke mentioned she may possibly like a girl in her class, which doesn't surprise me, my daughter is a butterfly child, gets along with everyone, very sweet and smart, she all around has an awesome personality.. But Zach completely blew up yelling and screaming she's too young, calling us all types of names.. I ended up leaving I'm crying, my daughter is crying apologizing when she has NOTHING TO BE SORRY FOR!! ,I couldn't afford a room so we slept in the car and have been in the car since, he won't allow me to get my boys so it's just been me and Brooke. How do I fix this?
So my bf and I have been dating for 6 months and just moved into a new apartment together. But at the beginning of our relationship before we ever did something sexual we talked about condoms of course and he mentioned the ones that he had which expired in 2020 cuz he was using them with his ex like in 2018 ig the time they broke up. It has bothered me cuz if he can buy new condoms why can’t he throw those away and either way they are expired. So I told him but he still kept them cuz yesterday I saw them in a box and today I found them in a drawer with new boxes. But I just don’t get it. I made it obvious many times I don’t want him to even think about using those on me and to get rid of them. But when I questioned him about why would he bring them here and why does he still have them he said he didn’t see it as a big deal but it just makes me feel like he has some type of attachment to the fact that he never finished using them with her. Help me to understand this please.
I'm a 24 year old male and I don't know what is wrong with me. Sex is literally broken for me and I have no idea how to fix it. I lost my virginity when I was 19 and I felt NOTHING. I don't mean I was only a little turned on or something, I mean I felt absolutely 0% sexual arousal. I was in a relationship with that girl for 4 years and never once felt turned on or enjoyed sex. I only really did it because she wanted me to and I usually didn't feel like it because it felt like a chore. I'm now with a second gf. I don't want to seem rude or anything, but she is (at least for me) a lot better looking than my ex so I thought I might feel something this time. But nope, I felt nothing again. She's also tried multiple things with me like anal, BDSM etc and I enjoyed none of it. 0% excited or turned on for anything. And I can tell that she's actually really good at sex too. Whats wrong with me?
I 28M have been dating my girlfriend (29F) for about 2 years. Our leases both end in a few months and for a while we've been in agreement we'd move in together after that. For most of our relationship we made around the same amount of money so we always split things and money was never an issue. Well last month I got a job that I wasn't really expecting to get, I thought I wasnt qualified but they loved me in the interview process and gave me an offer. This basically doubled my salary. While this was exciting for me, she seems to be even more excited about it to the point that it actually feels disrespectful. Our agreed budget on what we'd spend on an apartment is now all of a sudden not enough for her. She wants to live in a much nicer place and for me to pay the majority of it. She also keeps suggesting we go to fancy restaurants with the expectation I pay. I was happy to treat her for a nice celebratory dinner when I got the job but she keeps trying to set up more and more reservations. It makes me feel like she's treating me like a sugar daddy as much as I feel gross typing that. I told her I want to stick to our original rent budget and go with the same split we had already agreed to and that I dont plan on changing our lifestyle much and she said Im being greedy. How do I handle this?
PARENTING
I’m a divorced mom of 2 girls. Their dad is not super involved but they do see him several times a month. The oldest is 21 and out on her own. The youngest is 14 and lives with me. I have an excellent relationship with my girls. They are my biggest fans and I’m really proud of them. The 3 of us have always been close. But now that it’s my youngest and I her clinging to me constantly is driving me insane. My oldest was similar. But this time around it’s giving me anxiety. Some examples: when we go anywhere 14yo wants to hold my hand, hold my arm. I’m talking walking through parking lots and in stores. When we sit on the couch together she wants to hold my hand or sit right next to me. In the morning and evening she wants to crawl in bed with me. Constantly hugging me. The worst thing about it is she would never stop or get up unless I tell her to stop. She would literally stand and hug me for an hour if I let her. I’ll be doing something as mundane as taking off finger nail polish and she’ll come over and hug me. And not let go. And then I have to say “ok sweetie. Let me get back to this”. I feel constantly guilty for stopping her. But I’m starting to resent not being able to just sit and watch a show with her unless she is wrapped around me. Believe me. I know that as far as parenting issues go I’m lucky. But it’s still something that I think needs to be addressed. How do I help her feel more confident?
Hi, I have a 3 year old son with my ex, I have been trying to separate from him for a little over a month now. Relationship has always been rocky- not terrible (no abuse etc) but just up and down. He’s now holding on for dear life, and it’s making me more certain I am not happy to stay and “work” on it. His biggest argument is I’m breaking up our family, making everything so much harder for our son, that I am going to change him (our son) so much and his childhood will now be ruined. I’m being told daily that I’m making decisions that affect our son on such a drastic level and I’m so selfish for not considering him and his life and chance to grow up in a “real” family. Would I ruin my son's life if we were to separate?
My daughter is 6.5 she is in 1st grade. She hated kindergarten and she hates 1st grade as well. She is a shy kid so I’m sure the school environment can be intimidating for her but she does have friends and she loves her teacher. She had a fever yesterday and so she got to stay home and she laid around all day and wasn’t hungry so didn’t eat. When she got up this morning her fever was gone and stated she was hungry and she ate breakfast just fine. When I told her she had to go to school today she then claimed her stomach hurt. I considered letting her stay home but she just missed 3 days of school 3 weeks ago for a fever and fatigue. I made her go to school today and told her if she doesn’t feel well at school to tell her teacher and I will come get her. How do you judge when to let your child stay home from school?
My wife (34) and I (35) a 4.5 year old daughter that is very difficult to wake up in the morning. 4/5 days I have literally pick her up out of her bed and carry her to a chair in the kitchen after 30 minutes of gentle warnings, and sometimes she'll run back to her bed, and I have to do it again. I hate doing this as it always leads to tears and I feel this is straining my relationship with her. My wife works 12hr shifts 3/7 days a week, and when she's working I have to wake my daughter up before I go to work, hence why I have to pick her up out of bed. She has no firm bedtime. Do you think this would help?
WORK
very tired and brain fog during work - but get's slowly better at home, does this mean i don't like my job anymore? As far as i know i still enjoy my job even if it means sitting behind a desk for most part of the day, but i always feel so damn sleepy and suffer massive brain fog which get's a tiny bit better once i get home (it remains the same during the weekend, but less). I walk about 10km every day but don't run or do any muscle training, i really wanna go out and do stuff but i just am to damn tired.
My boss recently gave me an award for my performance and mentioned enrolling me in advanced courses to move up in the company. I want to apply for another position in a different part of the company but I’m not sure how to go about it. Should I inform my boss of my plans?
I received a message from 2 of my managers saying they really need me to come in today at 4PM, which I CAN but I seriously don’t want to. It's my day off. I’m 18, and I do go to college as well, but granted I work part-time at the place. I received the message whilst I was doing my school work and it irked me because today I was going to use to get all my crap done before going to work the next day but I can’t. Am I being a lazy pos? or do I have the right to say no?
I’m an assistant teacher and I am pretty good at my job. I have an easy temperament working with children with disabilities. Assistant teachers get treated below regular teachers for some reason. Some regular teachers have a habit of intensively micro managing people of color even if they do have something to offer the kids in the classroom. Is this racism?
SEX
So my boyfriend always moans “you’re going to have my baby” during sex. And I DO NOT want to have his child. I’m on birth control and so I’m not worried about getting pregnant. However, I can’t help but look awkward when he says that because I don’t want to lie to him. I usually just get silent when he asks. He asked me today if I enjoy sex with him and I do, I just don’t have the heart to tell him I’m not into him saying that during sex. Anyway, what should I do?
Yes or no to wake up sex? Is this a real thing? Do we like our partner touching and stimulating us sexually / sensually to wake us up ?
I had a great first date with a guy from tinder. We went on another date yesterday, it was great. I went back to his place and we had oral sex. I didn't climax, but was getting tired so told him "okay that's enough"; still it felt really good. This morning we cuddled, fore-played and I gave him a bj (my first one). He told me he was cumming in like under a minute of me doing it, and I was like oh wow that's quick. I asked if he wanted me to swallow and he said yes. I kissed him after, it was awkward. The rest of the morning/afternoon he was ice cold towards me. I asked if I did anything wrong and he said he was just tired. Maybe I overstayed my welcome? I don't know what happened.
My boy friend and I, both 18, have started experimenting with raw sex. And while I am on birth control I still feel worried about an unwanted pregnancy. He so far has been pulling but I would like for him to not have to. I was looking in to using spermicide but I couldn't find any good reviews of it. Do I have any reason to be worried?